Immediately after death
Necessarily, the “head” (the eldest or the one who financially supports the family) of the family has to decide the place of the Taoist funeral service. The place would be selected from among a Taoist funeral parlor, the house’s premises, or the multi-purpose hall/void deck of an HDB flat.
Right after deciding on a place, the family sends the death and wake message. The deceased is carried to the hospital for embalming and cleansing. They will be dressed in their best clothes along with makeup that will be done after the embalming and placed in the coffin (The deceased will not have anything red on them).
At the house of the deceased
Both red and white banners are signs of a passing; a red or white banner would be hung above the house’s main door. Statues of gods and deities around are covered with red paper in order to prevent the gods from seeing death. Mirrors are removed because of the superstition that whoever sees the coffin in its reflection will have their family line ended.
These ceremonies form the basis of a Taoist funeral service, which are ingrained ideas and customs that have been passed down through families. These are often part of an all-inclusive Taoist funeral package, which is to ensure that the complete set of traditional rituals is being practiced.
The altar and the coffin
Among the wreaths surrounding the altar is a portrait photograph of the deceased is placed in front of the coffin. Actually, there is an opening in the glass section of the coffin through which you are allowed one last look at the deceased. Joss sticks and candles are there at the altar for family members and guests to put their prayers and respect.
As an offering, the altar is loaded with food (the favorite foods of the deceased) as part of the essential rituals of the Taoist funeral service, which are generally included in a well-planned Taoist funeral package to the extent that the funeral can be performed in accordance with the traditional practices.
During the wake (Days 1 to 3/5)
None of the family members would wear any gold or silver jewelry or red clothing. Traditionally, it is a must for relatives and family members to demonstrate their grief by wailing and sobbing during the mourning period – they thus pay respect and show loyalty to the deceased. Nonetheless, the mourning process is becoming more subdued nowadays.
White shirts and black/dark blue pants are the required dress of the family members. A colored piece of cloth would be affixed to their sleeves to indicate their kinship with the deceased.
Taoist priests would span scripture chanting intervals, and the family, lined up according to their place of hierarchy and age, would imitate them. The chanting of these scriptures is one of the most important features of a Taoist funeral package, which helps the soul’s journey to go smoothly without being impeded by any spiritual obstacles.
Friends and guests who come to the Taoist funeral service should light incense or a joss stick at the altar to demonstrate their respect. The continuous burning of joss sticks and incense money is what is contributed to the deceased in the afterlife. Rich families may additionally present paper houses or cars symbolically as part of the ritual.
A bereavement donation box is positioned on-site to help reduce the overall cost of the Taoist funeral package, as well as to enable others to present their respect.
Family members tend to stay with the “vigil” overnight, during which they protect the body. Gambling activities may be there to entertain the guests and help keep them awake.
Last day of wake
The coffin is closed and sealed. The deceased is given the “Last Journey,” which is accompanied by the chanting and rituals of the Taoist monks. The Taoist funeral service concludes with the cremation or burial, and the loved ones present are given the opportunity to make the last honors.
The funeral rites have been completed, and “flower water” may be sprinkled on guests to purify them.